Leading LDS http://leadinglds.com Become a Leader, not a Calling Sat, 18 Apr 2015 04:12:33 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.1LDS leaders are faced with problems relating to home/visiting teaching, activation, missionary work, class participation, and many more. It’s time we consider applying established research and innovative ideas in order to find fresh ideas for these perpetual problems. By doing so, it will help leaders approach problems differently. There are also leaders that are currently over-coming problems with ideas that could be shared with the masses. We must find those LDS leaders and invite them to share. We encourage all to share ideas and strategies that have brought success in your respective ward or stake.Whether you are called to preside over meetings or vacuum cereal off benches LeadingLDS is for you. Regardless of your calling all are leaders in the church through example and fellowship. Leading LDS clean Leading LDS kurt@leadinglds.com kurt@leadinglds.com (Leading LDS) Leading in the LDS World Leading LDS http://leadinglds.com/wp-content/uploads/powerpress/Leading-LDS-Podcast.pnghttp://leadinglds.com Teaching Sexuality to LDS Youth & Children | An Interview with Dina Alexanderhttp://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/teaching-sexuality-to-lds-youth-children-an-interview-with-dina-alexander.html http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/teaching-sexuality-to-lds-youth-children-an-interview-with-dina-alexander.html#comments Sat, 18 Apr 2015 04:12:33 +0000 http://leadinglds.com/?p=2244 http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/teaching-sexuality-to-lds-youth-children-an-interview-with-dina-alexander.html/feed 0 How young is too young to have conversations with your children about intimacy and human sexuality? On this podcast, we get the answer from Dina Alexander, President and Founder of Educate and Empower Kids. In the digital age, How young is too young to have conversations with your children about intimacy and human sexuality? On this podcast, we get the answer from Dina Alexander, President and Founder of Educate and Empower Kids. In the digital age, where a couple of clicks can lead your child to a place he or she shouldn’t be online, it is increasingly important to protect them and educate them about this topic.Dina addresses the need to start the conversation around sexuality and pornography early. In her books “30 Days of Sex Talks,” she outlines age-appropriate ways to broach these delicate topics. Additionally, having “the talk” should not be an event, but regular conversations that create environments of openness. When children know they can ask their parents about anything, they’re armed with tools and better ideas of how to respond when (not if) they’re exposed to immorality.Some things seem like “no brainers” when it comes to intimacy, but so many evil things are being normalized and we need to make sure our children know what is right and what is not. Dina suggests you start where you’re at. If you have some catching up to do, that’s ok, but start the conversations now.If you are in the Salt Lake City area this weekend, consider attending the UCAP, "the biggest conference in the country educating the public about the problems and solutions concerning pornography.” Dina is one of several experts who will be on hand and presenting; more information can be found at the Utah Coalition website. Visit EducateEmpowerKids.org to learn more about Dina and her organization. You can find information about her books as well as tips, articles and tools to educate yourself and empower your family to defend itself against the dangers of pornography. Leading LDS clean 48:14 How to Support Gay Members in Your LDS Wardhttp://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/how-to-support-gay-members-in-your-lds-ward.html http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/how-to-support-gay-members-in-your-lds-ward.html#comments Tue, 14 Apr 2015 21:39:31 +0000 http://leadinglds.com/?p=2232 http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/how-to-support-gay-members-in-your-lds-ward.html/feed 5 Few topics are as emotionally charged or require more sensitivity than same-sex attraction. This complex matter touches on the things we care about most: our basic humanity, our relationship to family, our identity and potential as children of God, Few topics are as emotionally charged or require more sensitivity than same-sex attraction. This complex matter touches on the things we care about most: our basic humanity, our relationship to family, our identity and potential as children of God, how we treat each other, and what it means to be disciples of Christ.  - mormonsandgays.org In this podcast, we have an enlightening conversation with Ty Mansfield, President of North Star International, and former bishops Dale, Joseph, and Monte. All of these faithful priesthood leaders experience same-sex attraction (or SSA), and their candid insight is certain to help other leaders gain a better understanding of this challenge. We explore:what resources are available to church leaders and members alike through the Church, North Star International, and the Voices of Hope Project. how to help someone reconcile same-sex feelings with the doctrines of a family-centric church what to say (and what not to say) to someone who experiences SSA, or to a family member of someone who does how to create a loving, safe, and compassionate environment in your congregation for those who experience SSAWhether you're a bishop, serving in a stake presidency, or an auxiliary or youth leader, you will come away from this podcast with a deeper appreciation for the gospel plan and how there is a place for all of God's children in it.At the North Star Conference, there will be a special leadership track for church leaders to ask questions and learn more about how they can effectively support SSA members in their ward. Register below. Helpful Resouces & Links: mormonsandgays.orgNorth Star International'sNorth Star Conference, (April 23-25, Provo, UT)Voices of Hope Project"What (and What Not) to Say to Someone Who Experiences Same-sex Attraction"Transgender Mormon - The Cultural Hall PodcastBooks:Voices of Hope BookIn Quiet DesperationA Bigger World Yet Leading LDS clean 1:36:05 Accountability Tools for Pornography Addiction | Clayton Oslter with NetNannyhttp://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/accountability-tools-for-pornography-addiction-clayton-oslter-with-netnanny.html http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/accountability-tools-for-pornography-addiction-clayton-oslter-with-netnanny.html#comments Sun, 12 Apr 2015 18:45:54 +0000 http://leadinglds.com/?p=2226 http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/accountability-tools-for-pornography-addiction-clayton-oslter-with-netnanny.html/feed 0 NetNanny is one of the leading software developers in the fight for protecting families from the harmful affects of pornography. NetNanny is part of ControlWatch which is a pioneer in the industry and has more than a million customers world-wide. NetNanny is one of the leading software developers in the fight for protecting families from the harmful affects of pornography. NetNanny is part of ControlWatch which is a pioneer in the industry and has more than a million customers world-wide. They have won countless awards because of their work in protecting families and businesses from the evils of pornography.I got the chance to sit down with Clayton Oslter who is the Senior Director of Technology at NetNanny and interview him for the LeadingLDS podcast. He is the Young Men's President in his Salt Lake ward and also sits on the board of the Utah Coalition Against Pornography. We discuss some of the following topics:Obstacles that 2015 technology presents in order to filter pornographic content. How NetNanny works to enable parents to protect all devices in a home. Why the family computer is no longer where the big temptation lies. How to effectively protect accessing negative content on a smartphone.Try NetNanny for FREE Leading LDS clean 45:19 How to Teach Primary Children About the Dangers of Pornography | An Interview With Kristen Jensonhttp://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/how-to-teach-primary-children-about-the-dangers-of-pornography-an-interview-with-kristen-jenson.html http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/how-to-teach-primary-children-about-the-dangers-of-pornography-an-interview-with-kristen-jenson.html#comments Fri, 10 Apr 2015 19:48:45 +0000 http://leadinglds.com/?p=2219 http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/how-to-teach-primary-children-about-the-dangers-of-pornography-an-interview-with-kristen-jenson.html/feed 3 Kristen Jenson is the author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids. It is her mission to immunize your children against the destructive and addictive dangers of pornography. She currently resides in Richland, Washington. Kristen Jenson is the author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids. It is her mission to immunize your children against the destructive and addictive dangers of pornography. She currently resides in Richland, Washington. She grew up in the Boston area and later served a mission to Portugal. She is now serving as a gospel doctrine teacher.In this interview we discuss appropriate ways that parents and church leaders can discuss the sensitive subject of pornography. Her book is a tool to make the conversation more natural and to also encourage children to ask question around the subject so that they see the parent as a resource in avoiding the dangers of pornography. We also discuss the following questions:Will parents and leaders foster curiosity by speaking to young children about pornography? When is the appropriate age to start discussing topics of sexuality? How do you teach children about the healthy side of sexuality? What are the misconceptions parents and leaders have about the impact of pornography on youth? What strategies can parents teach to children when they accidentally view pornography? Links:Overcoming Pornography (LDS Church resource) PornProofKids.com Good Pictures Bad Pictures Book Leading LDS clean 1:01:40 Teaching Help: Teachings of Ezra Taft Benson | Chapter 8http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/teaching-help-teachings-of-ezra-taft-benson-chapter-8.html http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/teaching-help-teachings-of-ezra-taft-benson-chapter-8.html#comments Tue, 07 Apr 2015 14:46:59 +0000 http://leadinglds.com/?p=2206 http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/teaching-help-teachings-of-ezra-taft-benson-chapter-8.html/feed 0 The Food Order Reference Guidehttp://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/food-order-reference-guide.html http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/food-order-reference-guide.html#comments Thu, 02 Apr 2015 22:32:33 +0000 http://leadinglds.com/?p=2179 http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/04/food-order-reference-guide.html/feed 0 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaVnqaXOL8w&feature=youtu.be The Food Order Reference Guide is a tools used by bishops, branch presidents, Relief Society presidents, or anyone else that is tasked with filling out an LDS Food Order Form. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaVnqaXOL8w&feature=youtu.be The Food Order Reference Guide is a tools used by bishops, branch presidents, Relief Society presidents, or anyone else that is tasked with filling out an LDS Food Order Form. This reference guide is a 8.5" by 11", durably laminated, 3 page guide. The purpose of this guide is to help LDS leaders more effectively feed families and individuals in need of food. Without this guide it can be difficult to calculate how much food to order that will sufficiently feed a family in need.The Food Order Reference Guide has an easily understandable infographic on the front. This diagram teaches those in need how LDS church welfare works. It teaches those unfamiliar with church programs that food and resources the Church has available come from their neighbor's donations who have fasted for two meals a month and donated the money saved to the fast offering program.Inside the Food Order Reference Guide you will find a layout very similar to the Church's official food order form that gives serving sizes of each item and menu ideas to help family easily cook nutritious meals.It is the mission of LeadingLDS to increase leaders' capability in the Church across the world. The more bishop's, branch presidents, and Relief Society presidents use the Food Order Reference Guide, the more the Church will conserve resources and more effectively feed families by giving them the amount of food they are needing.Order one for yourself or for a leader you know and receive free shipping today!Physical description: laminated 8.5" by 11"Shipping: FreeBuy multiple reference guides and save.***FOR LIMITED TIME ONLY - The first 50 orders will receive a free gift***If you would like to print out just the serving size page in pdf format visit the Food Order Servings Per Container Cheat Sheet Leading LDS clean 1:51 How to Help the Spouse of an Addict | Interview with Steven & Rhyll Croshawhttp://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/03/how-to-help-the-spouse-of-an-addict-interview-with-steven-rhyll-croshaw.html http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/03/how-to-help-the-spouse-of-an-addict-interview-with-steven-rhyll-croshaw.html#comments Tue, 31 Mar 2015 23:08:02 +0000 http://leadinglds.com/?p=2173 http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/03/how-to-help-the-spouse-of-an-addict-interview-with-steven-rhyll-croshaw.html/feed 0 Steven and Rhyll Croshaw live in Mapleton, Utah and are the founders of SA Lifeline, a non-profit organization that helps individuals and couples struggling with pornography or any other type of sexual addiction. Steven and Rhyll Croshaw live in Mapleton, Utah and are the founders of SA Lifeline, a non-profit organization that helps individuals and couples struggling with pornography or any other type of sexual addiction. They have authored many books and speak around the county (including at UCAP Conference) about the pressing need for greater awareness and education of the negative effects of pornography.In this interview they speak from experience since their marriage was almost lost to Steven's sexual addictions. They tell their story of overcoming this violation trust and how they pieced their marriage back together.They also cover important topics that many church leaders overlook, including:how to recognize addiction how to help an individual disclose their addition to their spouse or loved ones why protections from pornography is more important than prevention why a bishop shouldn't feel alone when mentoring someone through addiction. They are truly part of a team.Also, they discuss the effects of betrayal trauma. This is referencing the trauma a spouse goes through when they find out about a spouse's addiction. This concept can't be emphasized enough! Church leaders needs to be aware of betrayal trauma and offer support and resources to those affected by it.I strongly recommend this interview to any leader that is mentoring someone through a sexual addiction. Please pass it on to other bishops, stake president, or elder's quorum presidents you may know.  Leading LDS clean 56:56 Articulating Problems Will Motivate Solutions | “Come Down” And Leadhttp://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/03/articulating-problems-will-motivate-solutions.html http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/03/articulating-problems-will-motivate-solutions.html#comments Thu, 26 Mar 2015 00:54:52 +0000 http://leadinglds.com/?p=2166 http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/03/articulating-problems-will-motivate-solutions.html/feed 0 "Come down"—this is a phrase very commonly found in the scriptures. It is often used in the context of a request to a leader—requesting they "come down" from their mountain or from whatever state they are in. - "Come down"—this is a phrase very commonly found in the scriptures. It is often used in the context of a request to a leader—requesting they "come down" from their mountain or from whatever state they are in.Daniel pleaded for Saul to "come down" (1 Samuel 23:11 & 20), The Lord "came down" to the valley of Nimrod to speak with the brother of Jared (Ether 2:4). There were even times when leaders refused to "come down" because they were involved in "a great work" (Nehemiah 6:3). And, of course, "God himself [came] down among the children of men." Leaders Must "Come Down" Leadership has a natural tendency to put you on a higher level. Not in terms of pride or prestige, but rather, in terms of perspective. As a leader you have a unique perspective to the status of the ward or quorum. You have specific authority or sometimes priesthood keys that give you access to inspiration that nobody else has. For example, an elder's quorum president has access to home teaching reports, attendance reports; he has attended meetings where information about individuals or ward programs are shared. From this exclusive information, the elder's quorum president might see a dramatic attendance drop between sacrament meeting and elder's quorum meeting. Or while others in the quorum are doing their best to home teach, the elder's quorum president can look at his reports and notice 5 specific families not being home taught; and if they were home taught, could have a dramatic impact on the ward.Humans tend to generalize their experience or perspective. People think that because they can see an obvious problem, everyone around them can obviously see the problem. As a leader we then get frustrated why this "obvious" problem isn't being seen and fixed by others in our quorum. It is the duty of the leader to articulate the problem (even the "obvious" problems) so everyone can gain a desire to find a solution. Once the quorum problem is described and the leader invites the quorum to act, those you lead will understand why this is a problem and help you find solutions.In Abraham 3:21 the Lord "[came] down unto [Abraham] to declare unto [him]". Abraham learned important truths of the Lord's plan and learned that he was chosen before he was born." This was an informative experience for Abraham. From this experience he was able to understand his purpose and take action. He could not have gained this understanding without the Lord "coming down" and articulating it to him.I can understand if this seems frustrating. Do we really need to spoon feed people problems? Do they really not see these "obvious" service gaps? As leaders we sometimes feel like the duty of those we lead has already been explained. We feel they clearly understand their expectation to do their home teaching, or magnify their calling. It's true, there are general understandings that have been drilled in to our heads for years (i.e. home teach, take meals to new moms, fellowship those around you, etc.), but these are simply too general. It is crucial for a leader to explain the more detailed problems that face a quorum or group. These details usually include names of individuals struggling, or unique characteristics of your ward that may not be apparent to the arm-chair quarterbacks casually attending week-to-week. For example, a Sunday School president may know that he needs to keep an eye on things during the Sunday School hour, but he may not know that 20% of the ward is leaving before Sunday School begins. Or the Scout leader may know he needs to put on a Wednesday activity each week, but he may not realize Brother Larsen in the elder's quorum has finally made consistent contact with a less-active family with scouting age boys.Communicating from your unique leadership perspective also humanizes the problem, which makes it more likely people will be willing to help fix the problem. Example: Lee Ward Find List A few years ago, as I was serving as bishop, Leading LDS clean 13:12 A Leader’s Role in Overcoming Addiction | Jake & Polly Scotthttp://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/03/a-leaders-role-in-overcoming-addiction.html http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/03/a-leaders-role-in-overcoming-addiction.html#comments Fri, 20 Mar 2015 14:38:30 +0000 http://leadinglds.com/?p=2142 http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/03/a-leaders-role-in-overcoming-addiction.html/feed 0 Jake and Polly Scott are from Centerville, Utah and are powerful influencers in the world of overcoming pornography addiction. In this interview, Jake tells of his struggle with pornography addiction and his journey to find the road to recovery. Jake and Polly Scott are from Centerville, Utah and are powerful influencers in the world of overcoming pornography addiction. In this interview, Jake tells of his struggle with pornography addiction and his journey to find the road to recovery. Polly gives her side of the story about dealing with betrayal trauma after she found out about Jake’s addiction to pornography.We talk about some of the misconceptions of a pornography addiction and most importantly how a bishop (or any LDS leader) can most effectively mentor someone through a pornography addiction. Additional Links: Addo Recovery (Polly is the Editor-in-Chief and Producer & Host of AddoTV)Overcoming Pornography, Jake and Polly's full story on the Mormon ChannelPolly's UpLift Families  speech Leading LDS clean 1:01:26 Teaching Help: Teachings of Ezra Taft Benson | Chapter 7http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/03/teaching-help-teachings-of-ezra-taft-benson-chapter-7.html http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/03/teaching-help-teachings-of-ezra-taft-benson-chapter-7.html#comments Sun, 15 Mar 2015 00:05:36 +0000 http://leadinglds.com/?p=2125 http://leadinglds.com/my-blog/2015/03/teaching-help-teachings-of-ezra-taft-benson-chapter-7.html/feed 2